This isn’t the sort of book that I normally read. I lean more toward romance and mystery novels. But after several people mentioned it I figure I could at least try it especially when it came up as free on Audible with a trial.

As an overview it identifies the 5 love languages as follows

• Physical touch
• Words of affirmation
• Quality time
• Receiving gifts
• Acts of service

It didn’t take me long to figure out the order of importance they fell into for me. Actually I automatically listed them in order of importance to me without actually thinking about it.

Prior to listening to this book I don’t think I ever really thought about what makes me feel loved and secure. And I’m sure that I never really thought to ask my partner what makes them feel loved.

If you don’t feel loved by your partner your relationship won’t last. So why is it that I never actually thought about that prior to listening to this book. It’s actually a really simple concept.

It doesn’t just apply to our romantic relationships either. I asked several people what they thought my primary love language was after explaining the 5 to them and 99% were like, “that’s easy, you like physical touch; you have always been touchy feely.“

Conversely, acts of service are just not my strong suit meaning doing things like making sure the kitchen table is cleared to make other people happy just makes me grumpy! In a days time the amount of stuff that I have to complete is a long list between the farm, my real job and the kids. If that alone isn’t enough then I just don’t have anything else to give in that department and I feel completely defeated and that what I am accomplishing isn’t enough.

I challenge everyone men and women alike to look at themselves and figure out how you would rank the love languages. If you are incapable of meeting someone’s needs because you suck at a specific language then that’s ok as long as you recognize it in yourself.